A Different Kind of Post - Opinions Are Like Onions...

I haven't given up on writing on this Blog. I've just given up on the few people who have negative things to say about it. I let their uneducated opinions get to me in the last week, and I stepped away for a couple of days to evaluate whether or not their opinions held any significant meaning. They don't.

This morning I was ruminating on an important conversation I need to have with someone and it occurred to me that there are different levels of immaturity and of faith.

Immaturity:

Some of us just put up with bad behavior longer because we know God's going to work it out. So go ahead and act like an immature idiot. We are not holding it against you. You're in a stage of life where the darkness is coming to light and God's going to do something big with that.

VS.

The get right with God crowd and never make a mistake or we WILL hold it against you, we will judge you, and we will share your personal details with others in the name of "prayer requests".

Faith:

Some have the faith to trust that if they sin big, God's going to forgive it and love them anyway.

VS.

Knowing that, but still striving to obey God, trusting that He's going to utilize our struggle as a growth process, bringing us closer to Him.

And he said, “What comes out of a person is what defiles him. For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.”

+Mark 7:20-23 (ESV)

Furthermore, it disgusts me how many people look at a married couple and discuss divorce for various reasons. I did a deep dive into the Biblical subject of divorce and here's where I ended up -

1) I studied it because my initial understanding was that Jesus hates it and does not permit it. If that's true, then any Pastor who says there's a Biblical reason for it is lying and Pastors aren't the type (generally) to lie, so that ate at me. I realized I must be wrong, and I wanted to find the root of it.

2) Divorce is permissible for precious few. It's okay - awesome in fact, that I don't directly understand it. I just have to trust that when God calls a couple to divorce, it's for a good reason.

3) Divorce is not the answer for Anthony and me - which I already knew. God is using us to show others how to stick with each other through thick and thin, even when the commitment has been to the marriage itself and we struggled to like each other. (Hello 2010s).

4)Sometimes Pastors are wrong. They're people, after all.

Is this technically a nacho?

Finally, Anthony and I are in marriage counseling, and it's been really great for our relationship. I didn't realize that I still have a lot of work to do on my communication style. I've gotten really lazy! I'll often practice something in my head that I want to say, and when it comes out of my mouth, sometimes it's taken completely differently than I intended it to. I'm still not sure how an intended compliment can offend others - but it happens! I need to work on my wording, my tone of voice, and be a lot more patient with Anthony. That's my big project to work on with Jesus.

Real quick, before I publish this and log off to go do some housework, I want to encourage those of you, like me,  who are long-suffering to keep leaning into Jesus. You're going to be tempted to take the easy way out on a lot of different situations in your life. I'm here to tell you that often the easy way is not the right way. 

The simplest solution is usually the hardest to do, and that's also usually the right one. We won't always know unless we seek Jesus in His Word, in Prayer, and in Fellowship. Just be careful who you're fellowshipping with. As Anthony and I have moved over the years, we've made some big mistakes in who we've trusted to fellowship with. Go slow, get to know people really well, and then share your story if you feel the Holy Spirit prompting you to. We are so blessed to be a part of a healthy, loving, Bible-based church now. 

Picture of a lovely rose because it's just so pretty!

Stay tuned for another episode. See you next time! And remember, if you or a loved one is in danger, get help immediately, and don't stop talking until someone acts on your words.

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