FORGIVENESS IS NEVER FOR THEM

Happy Hump Day! We've made it to the halfway point in the week, folks. For some of us, that's a great accomplishment, and celebrating that is okay. Sometimes we have to take life minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day. When our heart is broken, when we're ill, when we're in the midst of conflict, life is infinitely more difficult, isn't it? So go easy on yourself today. Celebrate the small wins. It's not silly. It's survival. 

This morning I have kept busy so far by folding what I like to refer to as "Mount Washmore" - a pile of laundry so big it was falling off my six-foot couch. It only two days to get that big. I still have more laundry to wash, dry, fold, and put away. To be fair, a fair amount of the size was due to blankets, towels, and bulky clothing like jeans and sweats, but I digress. It kept me busy for a good hour and a half. Next, I'm tackling kitchen organization and decluttering. Fun.

As I'm keeping busy keeping my home, I'm also utilizing mundane tasks to think deeply about the past, present, and future. I'm a strong believer that history repeats itself and we need to learn from the past in order to move forward successfully in a healthy manner. We can't stuff the problems of the past in a closet and walk away. They have to be dealt with. 

One issue I've been thinking a lot about is forgiveness. That pesky word keeps popping up. There is always a need for forgiveness. We are all sinners and even if we're not the ones doling out forgiveness, we're still dealing with it in some way. Personally, I'm prone to holding grudges. There is a gal from High School I have enjoyed disliking for 25 years. How petty is that? It's even uglier to see it written out like this. It's time for me to forgive and fully let it go.

What about all the big stuff? How do we forgive that? I have a simple answer, but it requires faith, trust, and work. You ready? Jesus. Jesus is the simple answer. Consider His ultimate sacrifice for us and our sins. He was totally blameless, yet took on all the punishment for our sins. We are to be like Jesus, so you do the math. We must forgive. 

Forgiveness is a daily choice for me, and sometimes hourly. When I'm really focusing on forgiveness, I have to take it minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day, and be very intentional about guarding and leading my heart. Sometimes I have to find a quiet place and sit with big feelings, talking things out with God. Often, I have to spend an extended amount of time in the Word, allowing the Holy Spirit to work within me, convicting me of sin, and prompting me to repent. 

Sitting with big feelings can be really scary and it takes a lot of practice. Don't try to go it alone. Invite God to sit with you through them, and don't be shy about talking to Him as you work through things. If you feel silly or unable to talk, then write Him a letter. It's okay if you can't or don't finish. The point is to start. You will thank yourself later for this. 

Christian therapy can really help as well. I don't recommend secular talk therapy for the most part. It can be helpful, but if the therapist isn't willing to allow your religion into the mix, it's going to backfire and cause more issues later on down the line. Unfortunately, I know from experience. I had a therapist once tell me to stop talking about God because "He's a myth" and talking about it made her uncomfortable. Another time, I had a psychiatrist tell me that Christianity is the basis for all mental health issues and outright refused to treat me. He then went on to tote the "positive" aspects of Buddhism. 

Your Pastor is an excellent resource for locating help. If he is unable to direct you to a licensed Christian counselor, often he will know of someone who can. Many Pastors meet regularly with the other Pastors in their area to encourage each other and to ask for help with resources their congregants need. Don't be afraid to reach out and ask for help when needed. At the very least, your Pastor will likely commit to pray for you and that's a huge relief in and of itself. Prayer is both the least and the most we can do for others. 

Remember, you can do hard things. So can I. We can do them together and we can do them with Jesus, but we cannot complete them alone. Jesus is the simple answer to all of our issues, all of our problems, and all of our questions. 

Keep Moving Forward

Stay tuned for another episode. See you next time! And remember, if you or a loved one is in danger, get help immediately, and don't stop talking until someone acts on your words.

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